What went well today

1.  I had lunch with my friend at work.  We went out for Chinese, the grease and salt helping with our sad hungover minds. This happened because we are friends and enjoy each others company.

2.  I had my last ever day of playground duty, I strolled around the school, checking everyone was there and chatting to the people of came in contact with. I enjoy taking to people and people seem to enjoy my company too.

3.  I had coffee and cake at the new cafe at the local shops with my husband.  This happened because we both make the time to be together and talk about the day.

A story of flourishing

The 92-year-old, petite, well-poised and proud lady, who is fully dressed each morning by eight o’clock, with her hair fashionably coifed and makeup perfectly applied, even though she is legally blind, moved to a nursing home today. Her husband of 70 years recently passed away, making the move necessary.

After many hours of waiting patiently in the lobby of the nursing home, she smiled sweetly when told her room was ready. As she maneuvered her walker to the elevator, I provided a visual description of her tiny room, including the eyelet sheets that had been hung on her window. “I love it,” she stated with the enthusiasm of an eight-year-old having just been presented with a new puppy.

“Mrs. Jones, you haven’t seen the room …. just wait.”

“That doesn’t have anything to do with it,” she replied. “Happiness is something you decide on ahead of time. Whether I like my room or not doesn’t depend on how the furniture is arranged, it’s how I arrange my mind. I already decided to love it. It’s a decision I make every morning when I wake up. I have a choice; I can spend the day in bed recounting the difficulty I have with the parts of my body that no longer work, or get out of bed and be thankful for the ones that do. Each day is a gift, and as long as my eyes open I’ll focus on the new day and all the happy memories I’ve stored away, just for this time in my life.”

She went on to explain, “Old age is like a bank account, you withdraw from what you’ve put in. So, my advice to you would be to deposit a lot of happiness in the bank account of memories Thank you for your part in filling my Memory bank. I am still depositing.”

And with a smile, she said: “Remember the five simple rules to be happy:

1. Free your heart from hatred.
2. Free your mind from worries.
3. Live simply.
4. Give more.
5. Expect less

What went well exercise

We think too much about what goes wrong and not enough about what went well. We spend too much time thinking about what is bad in life than is healthy.  I want to get better at thinking about and savouring what went well.

So the exercise is – every night for the next week I will set aside ten minutes to write down three things that went well with my day.

Next to each positive event I will answer the question, “Why did this happen?”

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Writing about why the positive events in my life should help me to be happier.

Tool kit – item 5

Without a doubt, Bookclub is the highlight of my month. It is one of the things I will miss most about Sydney. What’s so good about it? The company, intelligent, interesting and fun women. It has helped me to become a very we’ll read woman. I am no longer limited to a single genre.  Bookclub introduced me to my favourite books, Jasper Jones and The Book thief. 

Tonight we had our Christmas dinner, delicious Thai and spoke about Donna Tarrts latest book.  It wasn’t well received so I’m not disappointed I missed it.

I shall make finding a Bookclub a priority in whatever town I am posted too.

Tool Kit – item 4

Good friends are a definite must.  Can’t say I have many but those I do have are brilliant.  After shopping today had a nasty scare where younger son left iPad in a shopping trolley and husband didn’t check the trolley was empty before returning it.  So I spent the next hour charging around the centre looking for it. Fortunately a good samaritan returned it to us.  But I was mega cranky.  I had cancelled a family visit with friends because I was too angry to function.  On settling down I went to visit him on my own anyway.  Another friend from work joined us and we ate Krispy Creme doughnuts, drunk coffee and played Mortal Combat.  

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I’m a new woman, much happier.  I didn’t realise that being able to beat Batman would be so helpful, but there you have it.  I hadn’t played before so my friends were somewhat surprised by my success.  Amazing what built up frustrations will do to your killer instinct.  I have now returned home and cooked chicken and vegetable soup. I’m a happy girl again.

Tool kit – item 3

Time with my mum is always time well spent. Today we went to high tea at Gunners Barracks, Mosman. Totally indulgent afternoon tea and champagne. We also got to give a most adorable baby a cuddle. Talking to mum is so important to my well being. And the location was just stunning.

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